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Doesn't my puzzle look yummy? Katie Kate thinks so! TAKEN: FEBRUARY 15th, 2025 |

Tuesday, April 29, 2025
Y IS FOR YUMMY
Saturday, April 26, 2025
W IS FOR WANT
We will always WANT to travel. TAKEN: NOVEMBER 2014 (La Romana, D.R.) |
I think everyone sets up what they want differently. For us, it has always been openly discussed. The universal correlation between want and need.
When I started down the rabbit hole of making a point, I Googled want vs. need.
The AI generated response replied with this: "Need" refers to something essential for survival or well-being, while "want" describes a desire that is not essential for living but can improve quality of life. Which is why travel ticks both of those boxes for us.
Several decades ago, before I really understood how to manage my seasonal affective disorder, by Easter every year I was in a varying state of depression. So, starting when the twins were ten months old, we began using our tax refund to head to South Carolina for a dose of vitamin D.
Once the children finished post-secondary school (circa 2012), I began to contribute a weekly value into an annual travel fund. As I began to book all of our travel online, one week a year turned into two in the shoulder season; and a long weekend at the end of January – beginning of February.
With the severe health scares my travel buddy hubby as had in the last few years, we talk regularly when our travel adventures may end. Though we don’t know when that might be, we know one thing to be true.
We will always WANT to travel – but I also know, I will always need to travel.
Friday, April 4, 2025
D IS FOR DARKNESS
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The dead of winter in Muskoka (A 6am pic snapped from our kitchen) TAKEN: JANUARY 16th, 2025 |
Saturday, January 21, 2023
MUSINGS BY THE BONFIRE
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My wee Miya Maria and me... Musing beneath the trees. TAKEN: December 29th, 2022 |
Well, it appears I have once again survived 'Blue Monday'.
Though I'm sure some men might consider Blue Monday what follows the weekend if they didn't get laid, but I am referring to the Monday that is identified world wide as 'the most depressing day of the year.'
The exact day is calculated by assessing weather (W), post-holiday debt (d), time since Christmas (T), failing New Year's resolutions (Q), low motivation (M), and a lack of decisive action (Na). This year, it was Monday January 16th.
For fun, here is my current assessment and reflection of their criteria:
Weather – The weather man is the only dude that can do his job wrong 100% of the time and not get fired.
Post-Holiday Debt – Don’t
have any. Hard to go into debt when all you do is put up the same lights, decorate
the tree the same every year, and only purchase heart felt gifts for three loves.
Time Since Christmas – This
one has a reverse effect for me. I cringe when they start
pushing me at Hallowe’en to 'deck the stinkin' halls'.
Failing New Year’s Resolution - Didn’t make one. I set goals I want to accomplish but never make
resolutions
Low Motivation - This one did tick a
box or two this year. Unnecessary and immature drama prior to breaking for the holidays tainted my time off. There were lots of tears. I realize now it was my own fault for allowing it to bother me. It’s over now, and I was feeling great prior to January 16th .
Lack of Decisive Action: Not with
this cat. Booked and paid for my birthday trip to Vegas on Black Friday, paid off the car more than a year
early, and continually remove toxic people from my life. If there is one thing I am – it
is extremely decisive!
As an aside, for me this milestone day doesn't register in the same way it may with others. I find it important to acknowledge because it signifies the end of my season affective cocoon (aka: time change coma) and is the beacon of light at the end of the tunnel which leads me to spring. Coles notes, it means the shortest day of they year has passed and the longest day with sunlight is on the way.
As I look at the photo I am sharing, I love that I captured such a great moment. Sitting by the fire, Miya waiting for the next snowball to be thrown, with music filling our yard. It was truly a great day.
Sitting there sipping, I remember in the moment turning to my husband and raising my Yeti. "Let’s face it," I said.
"It is on days like these that I am convinced that wine was invented because God just wanted all of us to be happy!"
As we both chuckled at my spontaneity, I leaned over and clinked his can, then I continued as I always do. "Ya gotta laugh about it," I said.
Ya just always gotta laugh about it!
...Take THAT Blue Monday!!
Thursday, November 10, 2022
TWO YEARS NEXT WEEK
Discovering the beautiful resort beach on our first night in Mazatlán Sinaloa TAKEN: NOVEMBER 2019 |
It’s that time of year again, where the clocks fall back, and I fall into a six week struggle to stay awake during the day and get a good sleep at night. As a result, my day in my home office starts a half hour early, so I can tour around the Trip Central website; dreaming I will find a February deal.
It is hard to believe it has been exactly two years next week since I snapped the pic I am sharing.
Less than three months after this photo was taken, we were both so ill it was mind blowing, with nothing but speculation as to why. Then, in March of 2020 lockdown began.
Well, for the second time in less than two years, we both spent the last three weeks getting over what we suspected we had nineteen months previously. Except this time around we could test ourselves to confirm what in January 2020 we could not.
The upcoming 2023 presents a big milestone wedding anniversary in June for us which we began discussing on our drive to and from the Outer Banks. But prices are just too extreme at this juncture to make any decisions.
Though we've always set a certain amount of money aside every week to travel, with uncertainty in the economy and costs where there are now, I can't see us crossing the pond nor taking an Alaskan cruise (which has my husbands' vote).
Instead, I imagine I will keep dreaming of finding a great travel deal, then hire an excavator to put a new driveway in at the cottage... and together he and I will properly rebuild those shitty fifty-five stairs and associated landings.
Happy Anniversary to us!
Sunday, November 22, 2020
SNOW IT STARTS!
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My pretty pups posing with my frozen foe! TAKEN: NOVEMBER 16th, 2020 |
Tuesday, November 3, 2020
TRICKY TRAVEL TALK
Last week, after noticing that some of my Canadians snowbird pals were beginning to flock south until next spring, I decided to open up a social media discussion on the possibility of upcoming travel to the Caribbean in the winter of 2021.
I knew I might be encroaching on a tricky topic with some controversial dialogue happening, yet in the wide reaching forum I created, my network answered both respectfully and with personal honestly.
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Wind blown, cruising the Mississippi River aboard The Natchez New Orleans TAKEN: MAY 29th, 2019 |
As I sit here and type, I can't help but revisit the very first comment on my thread. A seasoned traveler wrote – “No travel until I’m vaccinated!”
On the day of the election of the 46th President of the United States, I can’t help but wonder what’s next in both the virus protection and travel departments.
Right or wrong, a vaccine produced without proof of proper exploratory stages, pre-clinical development and regulatory review for approval, is not something I am rushing to put into my body.
The shoe on the other foot reminds me that my thread wasn't intended to be a vaccination debate, more about travel input and opinions as I am hoping to hatch a plan and ultimately travel while respecting imposed limitations.
With my sunny wings potentially grounded indefinitely, I know I could always travel and remain in Canada, which is probably my best option at this point. I have family and friends out it BC, so that may be my overall 2021 birthday trip goal.
That said, vaccine or not, if the mandatory 14-day quarantine upon return to Canada is lifted, I will be sitting on a beach in the Caribbean quicker a snowsquall can move into Muskoka knocking out a neighbourhood of Bell satellite dishes.
Trust me.... Here, with our unpredictable winter storm crap?
That's 5G, Flash Gordon, blink and pack because you're leaving on a plane, fast!
#nufsaid
Thursday, October 8, 2020
LEAF IT TO ME
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Raking leaves... My pregame for snow shoveling! TAKEN: OCTOBER 8th, 2020 |
When walking in the evening with the pups the last couple of weeks, I noticed the neighbouring yards quickly filling with colourful foliage.
Tonight, a sight to behold, I couldn’t help but giggle thinking those vibrant leaves offer their ultimate beauty… When they are being cleaned up by someone other than me!
As you know, I chronicle in this electronic journal every October just how much I love this time of year. Everything feels crisp, the wood burning stove at the cottage makes everything really cozy, and gravy officially becomes my favourite food group.
For whatever reason, I find there is a harmony offered in autumn that no other season brings. A mellow sense of calming that I've enjoyed and embraced which always brings me into a familiar cyclical rhythm.
The leaves fall and get cleaned up. Enough wood gets split and piled. The garage gets cleaned out of spring and summer crap... and weekly outdoor burning of yard debris kicks off with the help of a wee bit of gasoline.
For some strange reason, specific fall activities seem to help me prepare mentally for the bright white blanket that arrives in early January; when my snowshoes relieve my angst.
All of that shared, I can’t help but be preoccupied with the fact that this will be the first fall in the last six that I won’t be jumping on a plane for a burst of November vitamin D.
I was chatting with my bestie today. She also suffers with Seasonal Affective Disorder in the same way I do. With everything locked down, we discussed what the next six months of darkness may offer. I know there’s no magic wand that can help but I am hopeful our daily check ins and dialogue will get us through.
As World Mental Health Day approaches October 10th, I can’t help look to the inspiring quote: “When darkness comes, let us not condemn the dark, but light a light to illuminate it.”
They mean that I need to buy more happy lights, right?
Because that’s how interpret it... as I head online with my credit card!
Thursday, August 20, 2020
A SNACK BRACKET
My very favourite client was in the office last week and he said to me… “Rhondi, just like you, I’ve had Covid-19.”
We burst out laughing after he continued with, “At the end of all of this, I’m not sure if it will end up being nineteen pounds, or nineteen kilograms!”
I don’t know about you, but as an emotional eater, I can generally peg the time of year when circus music begins to chime in my ear signaling me to buy stock in the most profitable potato chip company. And I can assure you, every fall, any and all are generously sampled; as part of my annual stock purchase evaluation.
What can I say. I was a fat toddler. I was power fed homogenized milk, and in those days the perception was the fatter the better. The good news is I shed that baby fat, the bad news is those formed fat cells follow you forever.
I have always been athletic and outgoing but when perimenopause clicked in everything changed. My body absorbed food differently and in one year my metabolism changed exponentially. It was in that moment I knew I was being put to pasture.
Kicking and screaming and the better part of a year later, I lost the excess weight and changed my lifestyle. That was in 2012.
Even with a major change in lifestyle, winters and my seasonal affective disorder in this harsh tundra have me pulling my gravy crutch out of the hall closet bringing the five or ten pound of weight gain that accompany it. The good news is those extra pounds were always shed before I ever had to appear in any sort of summer shorts or swimming outfit.
This year? We locked down. I filled up. The rest is history!
I want to shed the pounds I’ve gained yet I am a creature of habit.
If gravy has a crutch, my philosophy that if I share with the pups I am really only taking in 1/3 of the calories must be a motorized wheelchair. One chip for each of you, one chip for me. One jelly bean for each of you, one jelly bean for me; and trust me, I am always fair in the distribution department.
I guess you could say that the only way the dogs keep the upper paw on me is because they don't have to share their dog cookies with me. Though I must say, on occasion the label on the front of the box has made it cross my mind.
Not gonna lie.... Those gravy covered Milk Bone dog biscuits definitely land within my mid-winter snack bracket!!
#yagottalaughaboutit
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It would appear that Annie and I have similar snackage struggles TAKEN: AUGUST 7th, 2020 |
Friday, November 1, 2019
WINTER SUCKS!
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My photos were taken exact 163 hours apart. I really do dread this time of year! TAKEN OCTOBER 27th & NOVEMBER 1st, 2019 |
It's as if Labour Day is the milestone signaling me to head the shopping mall. Thanksgiving brings the expensive and very euphoric sexy shoe purchase, and by Halloween the fun becomes strained.
Ultimately, by the time we turn the clocks back, the Visa bill with interest arrives; and that final buzz kill leaves me grumpy for the six long months of winter that follow.
Almost immediately after we 'fall back', I leave for work in the dark and arrive home under the same circumstance. The swashbuckling pirates that produce my bogus hydro bill begin to circle like vultures, and it takes every fiber of self-restraint to not put gravy on absolutely everything I eat. As an emotional eater, at least I know the latter feeds into my 24-7 need for comfort, when I am simply always glum.
The truth is, with 61 days left until the year ends, I sense I’m in high school again. Specifically in grade 12 Chemistry when my teacher gave me a passing grade. Not because I'd aced his class, just simply because I'd tried as hard as I could and never once gave up.
... and that WINTER SUCKS!
Sunday, October 6, 2019
REALISTIC RHON2theDEE
Truth of the matter is, during that period, every time I sat down to write there was another item much more pressing on my list of things to do, in need my attention.
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Even my coffee was SHOCKED how crazy my summer was! TAKEN: AUGUST 24, 2019 |
You see, my husband had surgery the first week of August which was followed by an eight week recovery stint. It was his third procedure for the same ailment, so I knew what to expect as far as him getting back on his feet. Though he’s weathered another storm, yours truly is absolutely exhausted.
Factor in that I’ve had my busiest year at work to date, and the lethargy thickens.
Top it all off with the fact that I am on a mission to lose weight, and I feel the need a power nap just typing the words. What’s a girl to do?
To shed some light, I read somewhere that realist is someone that has gone through hell and been purified. A pessimist is someone that's taken a similar path and been burned.
Wednesday, November 14, 2018
MY 'FALL BACK' BLUES
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Loving life, Los Cobos & the Sea of Cortez! TAKEN: DECEMBER 1st, 2015 |
Then, by the time I went to bed last Saturday night, I knew certain tell-tale behaviours had effortlessly latched onto me without warning.
For what it's worth, I am generally embarrassed to admit that I folded like a lawn chair & curled up in said bed with my three pups (and as many blankets) submitting to the molecular desire to delve into the exponentially spellbinding plot twists of a handful of Hallmark Christmas movies.
Even worse, in the midst of my much needed 'everyone lives happily ever after' fix, I ate junk food. After the bag of chocolate covered peanuts were devoured, I chowed down on fresh bread and butter (which I haven’t in months). Then, to compound both of the above, I swear I looked in the fridge at least a dozen times for my go to comfort food. I am pleased to report that my husband seriously keeps that shit locked down, so I failed to consume any gravy!
I am so very grateful to be able to talk about my struggle here but I am most appreciative of the career crew I have in my everyday life. They know how hard I work to maintain a good diet and healthy lifestyle, and they recognize my wins. It is amazing to be surrounded by a tightly knit group of people that unconditionally support each other. Every. Single. Day.
Oh, and to my husband... for hiding the gravy.
Really. I'm dead serious. Gravy is the devil!!
Tuesday, September 25, 2018
MY DARK REALITY
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My 7am walk in the rain with the streetlights on. TAKEN: SEPTEMBER 25th, 2018 |
As a possible pick me up, I will report that I've decided only to listen to Bob Marley that week on the custom Bose sound system my new ride's equipped with, which could be deemed as a small concession, as the 'Port Carling-mobile' was a must have purchase.
'Must have’ ...an interesting approach to an item, isn't it?
I'll be the life of the party, rocking out to AC-DC’s Shook Me All Night Long, gripping my walker, nursing a recently healed broken hip from break-dancing; in one very kick-ass mature lifestyle community.**
**: This kick-ass community may or may not be located in Jamaica!
Monday, February 5, 2018
FEBRUARY, PLEASE BE KIND
FUN FACT #2: In the past, I've suffered a varying levels of many during February.
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Photographic proof of my daughter kicking February's ass....Old school! TAKEN: FEBRUARY 2017 & FEBRUARY 2018 |